Advice, Business

Consciously Choosing Life

I believe we all have a genius to uncover, no one approach is right for every individual; that happiness is our birthright, as is our freedom to choose.

The paradox however is that by adulthood, most of us believe we are a victim of life, suppressed under a lamp shade, our innate uniqueness dulled down by the need to conform in order to belong and be accepted.

Resentment, Rejection, Regret culminate and flavor our perception with continued reinforcement in all aspects of our lives. By the middle years, we are questioning life more deeply, searching for truth, some meaning and purpose.

 We stand on top of the hill of lived experiences, where expectations and dreams from our youth are merely a distant memory or a depressing reminder of failure.  

We are confused and anxious as we consider our futures, knowing that the choices we make now will either create more of the same, or be a catalyst for re-igniting our deepest desires.

Some refer to this stage as the Midlife Crisis. There is a lot of research supporting we go through a ‘Happiness Dip. Our astrology and numerology, (ancient tools for guiding the human journey) would support this notion.  Finger Print Analysis confirms an instinctual truth, that our life is in our hands, and the road map has already been written. ”

 While we have our personal journeys to navigate, the outside continues to unravel our deepest held beliefs about the nature of the world, and the nature of being all things human. Science continues to open up new frontiers, creating a constant vibration of change that impacts us in so many ways.

What drives us then to make choices in any given moment, in any major decision that can change our whole trajectory and give potential for a new lived experience? 

How is the paradigm shift the world is living in changing the very way we think, make sense of our world, our lives, our relationships, our careers, our communities?

 What does human potential have left to draw upon, to make life meaningful, to live consciously, on purpose?

WHAT MOTIVATES YOUR CHOICES? To explore this more, of your VALUES here. Your next step is to book a clarity session, and you can explore further options, should this be of benefit to you… Self Awareness is a wonderful invitation to make conscious choices going forward!

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Advice, Business

Flip the Inner Critic

Which one will be your loudest voice?  Patty Perfectionist, Connie Controller, Tessie Taskmaster, Olga Under Miner, Dot Destroyer, Gertie Guilt Tripper, Molly Molder?

 Much as you try, you can’t ignore them with positive affirmations. You can’t convince them they are wrong. Best you can do is learn to manage them!

All humans live in an inner world of thought which means that at any moment you have the power to reboot your mind and think differently.  

*First you have to decide to have better conversations with yourself. Building a Support Team can be fun, and help you in the beginning.

 *Become the observer of the situation. This helps you to separate and listen to the Inner Critic voices.

*Create your Inner Support team. They can help you flip the thoughts before you get caught up. You can re-boot your train of thoughts.

*Appreciate what you can learn from the situation, it could always be worse!

*Have compassion for yourself. Life gets messy sometimes, and you’re learning how to live life.

Rather than trying to change the world in each moment, you can witness what you are doing to yourself with your own thoughts. 

Once you begin listening to your thinking, and declare that you want a healthier conversation, your inner dialogue will shift.

You might begin to notice people and situations changing too. As you

change so will your outer experience change.

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WORKSHEET FOR FLIPPING THE INNER CRITIC

These characters might be fun friends for you when the Seven Inner Critics show up.

PattyPerfectionist                      →                Contented Cathie

Connie Controller                       →                Trusting Trudy

Tessie Taskmaster                    →                Satisfied Suzie

Dot Destroyer                             →                 Assertive Alice

Olga Under Miner                      →                  Proud Prue

Gertie Guilt Tripper                   →                  Courageous Cassie 

Molly Molder                             →                   Stand Out Stacey

Be the OBSERVER!   What might each of them say?

Patty

Cathie

Connie

Trudy

Tessie

Suzie

Dot

Alice

Olga

Prue

Gertie

Cassie

Molly

Stacey

CREATE A LIST OF REFLECTIONS….about your Inner Critic and the games she plays. For instance:

Does she attack and withdraw afterwards? Or stay attacking?

Does she shrink and withdraw? Become resentful and blame others?

When her self talk escalates, which is her best friend Inner Critic? Eg Does Olga join in the party when Patty gets things wrong?

Which Critic plays out the most in certain situations, or certain people?

Notice their words too:  Always, Never, Not, But, Should, Shouldn’t, Ought to, Have to, It’s Hopeless, No Point trying,

Are they Blaming, Justifying, Denying, Retaliating,

Are they feeling like the victim, or the persecutor or rescuing?

Is their behavior motivated by resentment, rejection or regret?

 

REMEMBER: Your Inner Critic is here to PROTECT YOU.

Her reactions are based on someone else’s point of view, which you learnt from a young age. They may be from your own distorted beliefs based on your experiences.

The good news is you can CHANGE THEM! 

You can RE-PROGRAM your beliefs, make sense of things from a different point of view, create new habits of thinking, and choose a more conscious reaction to life around you.

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